When a man loves a woman, his life is centered around his love for her.

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Andre, a single, tall, dark and handsome man is turning 40 in a month. His friends have been secretly collaborating about throwing him a party on the yacht. Jason has a large two deck yacht that he rents out for entertainment engagements. Andre along with his four friends started a social club approximately ten years ago. It’s a men only social club where members have to pay an annual fee to be part of the club. The members receive discounts when booking an engagement at one of the social club owners business facilities. The five men who started the club met 12 years ago at an entrepreneur seminar. Their stories were similar in nature. They all grew up in a poverty-stricken environment and wanted to excel higher than the limitations place on them due to their demographic profiles. The five men worked hard and wanted to invest their saving wisely, which is the reason for them attending the seminar. Only one of the men have a master’s degree in business. The other four have some college but did not graduate. After attending the seminar, the five men friendship began with the exchanging of contact information. The friends counsel and encourage each other as they became entrepreneurs.

Andre owns two-night clubs. One is located in Miami Florida, and the other is located in Hollywood. Jason’s three yachts are located in Dana Point, Marina Del Rey, & Cape Coral, Florida. Robert owns two sports bars; one in North Hollywood, the other in downtown Los Angeles. Richard owns several mansions located in Calabasas, the Hollywood Hills and other locations in California. Brian owns a franchise with a major vacation cruise ship. Not any of the men is married. Because of their similarity in never dating anyone long enough to form an attachment, these friends are known for being a ladies’ man.

The five friends all live in California, which lead to the decision to have the party on the yacht located in Marina Del Rey. The four friends secretly invited 50 members from their social club. They asked each of the members invited to invite at least two ladies or one lady with a plus one. They informed the invitees that no one would be allowed on the yacht without a boarding pass. Andre’s birthday is on a Tuesday, four days prior to the social club owners scheduled monthly meeting. Andre was told the meeting will be held on the yacht in Marina Del Rey. Andre was not suspicious because the club owners often will meet at one of their facilities.

Andre arrives 45 minutes after the guest had arrived. He was surprised to see the mass number of people on the yacht. He called the owner Jason of the yacht to see if there was a change in the meeting date that he was not privy to. As Andre was on his cell phone talking to Jason, he sees his four friends walking towards him with two bottle girls holding up a huge banner with sparkling neon writing that reads “Happy 40^th birthday Andre”. Andre was totally surprised and elated that his friends came together to celebrate with him in honor of his 40th birthday.

Before dinner, everyone socialized with drinks at the open bar. Andre notices this lady standing at the bar waiting patiently as the bartender mixed drinks before pouring her a glass of wine. He couldn’t stop staring at her. He did not understand why he was so mesmerized by this woman. Andre has been a ladies’ man all his life. To Andre, women looks and shape may be different, but they are all the same. He never had a woman to smitten him or cause him to see them different from any other woman. Andre did not understand how or why people fall in love. He did not understand the purpose in being in relationship with only one person for the rest of your life when what they bring to the table is nothing different than anyone else. Andre never experiences any relationship beyond the norm which is; met a lady, occasionally go to dinner, occasionally come together for sex; then go your separate way when the arguments begin. Andre, nicknamed this norm, “the revolving door syndrome”. Here he is staring at the woman, but can’t understand Why. He describes it, within himself, as an invisible magnetic force drawing him closer. Andre decides to approach her. “Hello, my name is Andre.” “Hello Andre, my name is Beverly. So, you are the face of the name on the invitation. Happy Birthday.” “Thank you, Beverly, it’s a pleasure to meet you. Who are you here with?” “I am here alone states Beverly, I was invited by a co-worker who is one of your club members.” Andre invites Beverly to sit at his table for dinner. He was so intrigued with her; he wanted to know her better. Andre and Beverly talked for hours. Aside from the staff, they were the last two to exit the yacht. They exchanged contact information. Andre found himself calling Beverly the next day asking her to have dinner with him to continue their conversation from last night. Beverly agreed.

Andre and Beverly spent every weekend together. He fell in love with Beverly quiet meek personality. He was surprised to hear she was a lawyer. He thought all lawyers were combative talkative people. After several months of dating Beverly, Andre asked her to be exclusively his girlfriend. He wanted to spend every free moment he had with her. He found himself thinking about her through-out the day whenever they were apart from each other. He would text her every morning to say, “Good Morning.” He would text her every day around lunch time to say, “He hopes she is enjoying her day and to have a good lunch.” He would call her every evening to talk briefly for about 15 minutes. Andre entire life was centered around his love for Beverly. He made sure she was safe as they walked down the street together. He would watch their surroundings and people; he would walk on the side of traffic to keep her safe from cars. He made sure her home was secure with cameras and alarms. Also, he made sure her car had its proper maintenance and was safe for her to drive. Andre did not understand the changed that has come over him since meeting Beverly. He tried to rationalize it within his mind. Andre would think to himself, “it’s not that her outer beauty is any greater than other women he dated. Or that her personality traits were out of the ordinary that he hasn’t experience before in another woman.  He wasn’t sure what it was; all he knows is that he was feeling something that he never felt before. He couldn’t pinpoint what that something was until one night in the midst of having sex with Beverly, he shouts “I love you” without hesitation or pre-thought. Andre couldn’t believe he broke the Bro code by telling a woman he loved her first and it wasn’t because he had reached the top of the mountain yet during sex. The next day, at work, Andre could not take his mind off the intimate evening he had with Beverly and what made him shout “I love you.” “What is happening to me, thought Andre.” “Am I becoming weak? Why is it that I am feeling what I am feeling?” Andre wanted to talk to someone to help him understand this never felt before emotion. He knew he could not talk to his boys from the social club; they would laugh at me thought Andre. He decided to man up and talk to his dad about it. After explaining the entire scenario to his dad. Andre’s father told him, “Man you are in love; it’s that simple.” “In love” shouts Andre. “Yes, His father replies. “And that’s exactly what you shouted to her in the midst of making love to her.” Dad, “I told you that we were having sex when I shouted, I Love You.” “Son, having sex is what you do when love is not involved. You have hit a pivotal milestone. You are experiencing love for the very first time with a woman.” “Dad, I’m trying to understand how I got here.” “Son, your mother will have to explain that one to you. We, as men are not emotional intellects. You don’t have to tell your mom all the details, if you know what I mean; just explain to her that you are trying to understand why you were so attracted to this woman versus other women you dated and why you told her you love her first.” Okay dad will do.

Andre’s mother explained to him that his attraction to Beverly was not a fleshly attraction but a spiritual attraction. She told him that he is drawn to the beauty of Beverly’s aura. “Son, based on what you told me, Beverly is a spiritual woman. This is not to say she is a perfect woman. However, she understands that imperfection is in all beings and in order to not allow her blemishes to guide her through life, she understands the important of keeping herself spiritual grounded. Spiritual people are not quick to speak negativity because they are having a bad day or cuss someone out because they deserve it or wish evil doing upon someone because they are jealous. Spiritual people, live and let live. Their focus is on personal spiritual growth not on judging other people. When a person is spiritual grounded, they release a spiritual energy that encompass their entire being which is known as their aura. Beverly’s subjective sensation of invisible light attracted your energy. In other words, your energy was attracted to her energy. Beverly is obviously a woman who spend time, in private, praying and meditating on the fruit of the spirit which is Love. When one live in the spirit of love, so shall they walk in the spirit of love. Son, I encourage you to embrace rather than question; because for most people true love only comes once.”

Ladies, you have the power within your natural beauty to attract a man; the question is, do you want to attract a man who is lusting after you or who have the proclivity to love you by walking in the spirit of love. Trust and believe not everyman who says I love you is walking in the spirit of love, if they cuss you out privately and publicly, and only takes the fruit of your labor and not share their fruit with you, and does not have your back; but is always looking for you to have their back, and does not care about your safety or if they are taking food out of your child’s mouth without providing a meal.  If this is the case, change how you attract a man. Spend time mediating on the fruit of the spirit until it cleanses your aura. Remember, Love is joy, it’s peaceful, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, and meekness. You deserve true love. Peace!

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