Who knew love could be found on a computer? Is he real?
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“Look at my baby, all grown up. What do you want for your birthday? I wish you would allow your father and I to give you a party to celebrate your accomplishments in life. You graduated from High School with a 4.0 GPA. You will start college in the fall. You found yourself a job without the help of me and your father. And you are moving into our studio guess house in the back. Your father and I would love to honor your accomplishments in some way; so, again I asked: What do you want for your birthday?” “Thanks mom; rather than spend money on a party, can you and dad buy me a small used car? Having my own transportation will allow me the freedom to be more mobile without bugging you and dad to take me around.” “That would be an excellent gift to give you. I will talk to dad about it. I am sure he will be okay with it. Let us plan to go shopping for you a car this weekend coming.” Thanks, mom, for being so understanding. I love you. I have a few more boxes to move into the guess house. Once I am moved in, I will invite you and dad to dinner. I want to surprise you both with my cooking skills.” “Okay dear, let me know if you need help unpacking.” “Will do” shouts Sandra as she walks out the back door.
Sandra is the Fords oldest child. The Fords has one other child; Sandra’s brother Jack, who is sixteen. Jack is spending his summer in boot camp for gifted kids. As promise, once Sandra got settle into her new place, she invites her mom and dad over for dinner. Sandra never cooked at home. Her mother would not allow anyone other than herself to cook and clean her home. As a very observant child, Sandra would sit in the kitchen and watch her mother and grandmother prepare meals. Sandra decided to mimic one of her grandmother’s meals. She made lasagna with a mix green salad and crescent rolls. Her parents were impressed with her culinary skills and felt their daughter would not have a problem paving her way through life.
In high school Sandra was valedictorian. She would often spend her spare time tutoring other students. She became close friends with the principal’s daughter Karen, who was in her second year of college during Sandra’s last year of high school. Sandra invited Karen over to celebrate having her first place. Sandra prepared finger foods for her and Karen. She put party wings in the air fryer and prepared a veggie platter with ranch dressing. Karen bought items to make virgin Pina Coladas. Sandra and Karen sat talking for hours about the benefits of being a young adult living outside their parents’ home. Karen asked Sandra about dating. “Karen, I have not given much thought to dating. I only had one boyfriend in my life during my second and third year in high school. It was a controlled dating relationship. Our parents made sure Michael and I never went beyond a kiss on the lips. Michael graduated a year before me and is now attending college in another state. We do not keep in touch. I heard he is dating someone who attends the same college. Anyway, my experience with Michael is not sufficient to prepare me for a real relationship as a young lady. I am not a socialite so therefore; I do not know how and where to meet anyone to date. How did you meet your boyfriend, Karen?” “My boyfriend and I met on one of the college’s website portals for students. We both joined a private group for students who are majoring in becoming a doctor. The members of the group discuss school related issues pertaining to classes, course material, the professors teaching method, and financial assistances. Each student must create a profile before joining. Our school ID picture is used as our profile picture. We can send a private DM to someone in the group. My boyfriend sent me a DM asking if we could study together in the school library. I agreed and the rest is history.” “Karen, your story sounds like a match made in heaven. I would love to meet someone before I start school in the fall. It would be good if there are some social media platforms like your college group portal for students.” “There is Sandra” “Help me find the way Karen.” “Okay, let starts now Sandra. Have you heard of Spacebook?” “Yes, but I have never been on Spacebook.” “It is okay Sandra; I will coach you step by step. Let us start by setting up a profile for you. Then we will add your profile on SpaceMessenger which is related to Spacebook. It will allow someone to DM you privately. Then we will search for groups you can join on Spacebook.” Karen spent the rest of the evening helping Sandra set up a profile. They found a group for young adults between the age of 18 to 25 who were valedictorian in high school. The members of the group talked about their senior year in high school. They talked about college; their first real job; moving out their parents’ homes; buying their first car and their future. Because it was late, Sandra invited Karen to spend the night. Karen cordially declined because she had a brunch date with her boyfriend. Sandra walks Karen to her car parked in the family huge drive way which allows room for at least four cars. Sandra stays up half the night interacting with people in the group on Spacebook.
The next day, after running a few errands, Sandra goes back on Spacebook to find she had received a DM from Robert. Robert introduces himself as a single 21-year-old college student who is majoring in Aerospace Engineering. He asked to meet with Sandra in person or to talk with her directly over the phone. Sandra replied to Robert’s DM requesting that they spend a little time getting to know each other by DMing before exchanging phone numbers. Robert agreed. The two message each other back and forth for two weeks, talking about their families, their future endeavors, and current events. Sandra found herself looking forward to receiving a message from Robert. She was tire of having to log on to Spacebook to hear from him. She decided it was time to give him her personal phone number. Robert called her immediately after receiving the DM with her phone number. They talked on the phone for hours. Sandra found out that Robert only lived five miles away from her home. Both their colleges are near their homes which means their relationship will be local not long distance. Sandra agreed to meet Robert for lunch. Three weeks after meeting on Spacebook. They met at a café mid-way between their homes. Robert was standing outside the café when Sandra arrives. She was so happy that Robert looked like his profile picture on Spacebook. It made it easier for her to feel comfortable that she was in the company of the correct person. As Sandra was approaching Robert, he shouts out; “hello Sandra, you are more beautiful in person. Sandra giggle with a huge smile as she says thank you. Robert bought Sandra a single red rose with a card that read; “You know, I have been searching for someone, who can share that special love with me; and your eyes, your eyes; your eyes have that sparkle. Could it be your face, I see on my computer screen?” Sandra entire aura glowed as she read the card. She hugs Robert, then kiss him on the cheek. She thanked him for the rose and card. Robert opens the door of the café for Sandra to enter first. He finds them a seat for two near the window, so that the natural light shining through the window would highlight her beauty. Robert and Sandra talked for two hours about their future after college as they enjoyed soup and a sandwich at the café. Robert asked Sandra to be his girlfriend. Sandra agreed only if their relationship was exclusive.
The next day, Sandra lays in her bed awoke daydreaming about Robert when she hears a knock on her door. Sandra opens the door. “Hi mom. What are you doing here? Sorry mom, I did not mean it like that. It is just that I’m surprise to see you at my door; usually you call me on the phone when you need to talk with me.” “Well dear, there is someone at the house for you and I did not want to call you in front of him. At this moment, your dad is chatting with him.” “Who is it mom?” “It is Michael. He is home for a few weeks before returning to school for the fall semester.” What does he want mom?” “He said, he was passing through the neighborhood and decided to drop by to say hello to everyone.” “I am not sure if I want to see him mom. He never reached out to me after leaving for college a year ago. Why now?” “What do you mean why now. Am I missing something?” “Yes mom, you are. I met someone. His name is Robert. We have been talking for a month. Robert asked me to be his girlfriend and I accepted. We are in an exclusive relationship. Robert lives five miles from us and attends college here in the state. The relationship feels right. I feel, he is the perfect person for me. Besides, the last I heard; Michael is dating someone at his college.” “Well dear, what do you want me to say to Michael? I told him that I would check to see if you are available.” “Mom, please tell him that I am not available. You can also tell him that my phone number is still the same. I am hoping me saying this will make a statement to him; letting him know that he just cannot show up at my door after a year and expect all is well; especially when he has not call me or come by to see me when he came home, from school, for Thanksgiving and Christmas.” “Sandra, I have raised a strong, wise, intelligent young woman. I am so proud of you. I have watched so many young women on these reality tv shows lower their standards and devalue themselves to be in relationship with someone who openly disrespect them.” “Thank you, mom. You and grandmother taught me well. Now, I have found my computer love.”
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Judy Owens
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